My husband and I were GRGs, grandparents raising grandchildren, our grandchildren when both parents were killed in separate road accidents. Our teenage children and grandchildren were shocked and we were, too. The court has appointed them as guardians and conservators financial, two roles that we never thought of.
Become GRGs changed our lives forever. Fortunately, our house is particularly suited to young people. Each of our grandchildren (one boy and one girl) had their own room andthey share a bathroom. When children go to bed at night, close the doors, as if they lived in separate apartments. For years, we are open to sleep with our bedroom door and now we have to close.
I never in my niece's room without knocking and identifying me. If no one answers I will return later. Dr. Brian MacDonald is the issue of privacy in an adolescent family site Anatomy article "Invasion note that your teen leads to conflict: is this a goodWhat? "Instead of conflict, thinks parents [and grandparents] have to develop a relationship of trust with their young.
"You allowed your children what you expect and because I believe that talking sense," he writes.
Kate Kelly, author of "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Parenting Teens," writes about the security of data in their article Family Education website "Teen Space, Teen Privacy?" Guys can not close the adults out of their rooms andPrivacy statement, according to Kelly. "It's your house, and is perfectly suited for you and get out of his room from time to time (daily or weekly)."
Adults need to understand why young people want privacy, says Kelly. Some young people, like my nephew love to read, concluding his room and curls up in bed with a book -. But when a teenager leaves private papers outdoor, diary, letter, card or note - Kelly says that he or she should takeyou want to read it.
I think my grandchildren have twins need for privacy of their own grief process and with dignity. Helen Fitzgerald, author of "The Grieving Teen" think children find it difficult to stay focused after a death in the family. Sudden death, in our case, two deaths, the pain makes it more difficult. Your mind can wander and more time needs of youth with homework. "If death not once, but violent, then you have problems with even more to do," Fitzgeraldshe says.
My husband and I have taken many steps to respect the privacy of our grandchidren. In addition to knocking first, we are cautious about physical contact. If young people afflicted, it is difficult to know how much physical contact that takes, and force them to embrace the personal space can be seen as an invasion of privacy e.
We file our guardian and protection and our grandchildren can see at all times maintained. Since the twinsbe at least 18 years, we shot a lot of documents and financial data to them. I bought each of their box spcial paper documents. If someone calls and the twins are not at home, we take care of the club and messages on their bedroom doors or places for dinner. Finally, we never, ever open to the twin-mail.
We respect the privacy of our grandchildren and they respect us.
Copyright 2010 by Harriet Hodgson
