Just as we did when we were children, parents must continue our teaching and half high-school students, what being a good friend (on both sides of the equation). We also need to encourage them to work for themselves when they are treated with respect. These tips can help you help your son / daughter to go through a friendly challenge.
Show Before you get it. Confirm your child what he / she 's feeling is normal. It hurts when youFriend turns against you. Reflect back what you hear, "You look really bad, angry and confused." Make a "wounded by a friend" story of your own teenage years. I hope you can also share what they learned from this situation and how to use it to increase, become a man of thought. These models of empathy and also ensures that your child (s) to survive.
According Calm down. The move towards the stages of conflict resolution (3:04) Before the child needsde-stress and may need you too. No matter what someone has done something horrible to your child (and the use of digital media, social today's children can be incredibly creative in their virulence in them), only the reassurance easier to get excited.
Third What can / can 't control? Point of reality: you can not control the behavior of a friend or feelings, but you can handle alone. If you think about the decisions of others, avery clever of 12 years, once told me "My grandmother says things that only the control of the hand." Exactly right. And if you can not control things that try to control it, is only going to stress. Do not let your child go there and not even go there!
Your child has a fourth option. Even after a struggle (s) he is far from helpless. If, for example, a friend became the enemy, your child's options for dealing with the situation could: Includes
A. Talk with other trusted friend about the situation and get their opinions / advice
B. speak directly with the wild child and tell her what she was doing, how you feel
t C. Don 'ever say again that friend
D. back to her by other people against their turn
E. pain and act as if they forget the troubles
F. Find Friends
Brainstorming should now open. Even if you listen, perhaps, an option thatimmediate connotation as "terrible idea to say anything. Just Encourage your child continues to brainstorm possible options. That is a process. Judging a good option vs. option comes after bad.
Fifth evaluate the possibilities. Only after the child lists several options, it's time for him / her (not you) in installments.
You: Take the D option, for example. What is likely to happen after the elections that?
Teen (thinking aloud): The whole class isLikely to take sides. Then again in this huge mess.
You: I help to heal the friendship? There will be more or less stressful for you and others?
Teen: Uh, the first response ... Not really. Answer to second question ... more.
She: I agree. Well, what about option E? What would happen if you go with what?
Teen: "My friend might think, because I can not say that I do not care what he was doing. What is not so true!
If yes: how to actdiscomfort build more confidence in the friendship? More than help?
Teen Apparently not.
Thinking about possible consequences for young people is incredibly valuable because they often respond without thinking. Also speaking of the worst options instinctive retaliation and the consequences of providing great (and very safe), opportunities for learning.
With your support, examining options (and without worrying that you hurry and try to fix "the problem)Your / teen 's Tween to improve critical thinking skills. We hope your child will be closer to the time when moving to longer tolerate disrespectful behavior of any friend or so-called friend.
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